I’ve decided I have a martyr complex, and I know exactly where it came from. Ten years of stiff upper lip public school education.
Another legacy of public school is hating to travel away from my loved ones. For some reason Woking station after dark always comes to mind, probably because that was where – only a couple of times, but obviously it marked me – I would return to school at the end of a half term break with my grandmother, while my parents were abroad.
Thus, on those occasions as an adult when I still have to travel away from my loved ones the martyr complex kicks in with a whoop of glee. Really heavy duty misery ahead, whoopee! Like, yesterday I had to travel down to Brighton for various meetings this morning. I decided I would head off from work early (4ish), suffer the periphery of the rush hour on the M25 and be bored and lonely all evening.
Result: I was miserable right from saying goodbye to Best Beloved in the morning and for the rest of the day, until finally it dawned on me (thanks to a sane colleague) that I didn’t have to do it quite like that. I could go home, have dinner, leave 7ish with rush hour out of the way, get to Brighton, turn right in, not have time to be lonely and do my stuff this morning as planned. The madness is over! The martyr complex is identified and told to go stuff itself!
And so that is what I did. Plus most of the drive was on empty motorways after dark, which I actually quite enjoy. It makes me fell very Vangelis-y.
Bonusbarn comments that I don’t have a martyr complex, I just need to develop common sense in certain areas of my life. I cunningly riposte that it’s much the same thing, really. Still, I have gained a little in self-knowledge and that’s always the first step in self-rectification.