{"id":1052,"date":"2010-09-09T12:22:25","date_gmt":"2010-09-09T12:22:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.benjeapes.com\/?p=1052"},"modified":"2022-08-26T08:31:55","modified_gmt":"2022-08-26T08:31:55","slug":"guess-whos-back-on-facebook","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.benjeapes.com\/index.php\/2010\/09\/guess-whos-back-on-facebook\/","title":{"rendered":"Guess who&#8217;s back on Facebook?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I don&#8217;t know how it happened. Well, okay, I do. A confluence of influences. Influence conflued.<\/p>\n<p>Apart from the general grumpy old mannish acceptance that it really isn&#8217;t going to go away no matter how hard I ignore it &#8230;<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>A friend (real-world meaning) whose blog I enjoyed reading, but which hasn&#8217;t been updated for months, admitted he&#8217;s pretty well given it up and now just uses Facebook. So if even intelligent people regard Facebook above all others, and there&#8217;s a whole generation out there who wouldn&#8217;t think of looking for me anywhere else, and I am (as ever) poised on the brink of worldwide fame &#8230; that&#8217;s where to be.<\/li>\n<li>And then another friend (also real-world meaning) tells me he&#8217;s said something online that, from the nature of our real-world meaning friendship, I know I&#8217;ll find interesting, but it&#8217;s on Facebook &#8230;<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>&#8230; and that was what did it. I just sort of slipped in. Being a Gmail user, I clicked on his message and found myself being invited to join up through my Google account. So I did. And then it kindly read my contacts list and showed me all the ones who are also on Facebook. Maybe I would like to invite them to be friends? (Well, maybe they already are, so nyah. And in some cases, maybe I would pay money not to be friends with them but I still need them in the contacts list. This is grown-up life, children: the ying and yang, push and shove, give and take, awareness that we live in a world where all is not sweetness and light and it sometimes just pays to smile and be polite &#8211; deep, adult concepts a world away from the pimple-ridden adolescents who designed Facebook in the first place. [No offence intended to any pimple-ridden adolescents reading this, who will be real-world-meaning friends and therefore lovely by definition.])<\/p>\n<p>So, here I am. It&#8217;s a clean break with the past &#8211; a new account as opposed to reactivating my old one. I let the old one get out of control. This one I will keep a tighter grip on and just use as a means to guide people to more erudite pens\u00e9es such as this. It means I&#8217;m no longer the first Ben Jeapes on Facebook &#8230; well, technically I suppose I am since that account is still there, just dormant. But anyway. And any former Facebook friends &#8211; is there another way of saying this? ffriends, with a silent eff? Well there is now &#8211; any former ffriends who want to stay ffriends will have to renew the invite, though I won&#8217;t just blindly accept invitations from anyone; there are people I can live without being ffriends with even if they happen to be friends. No offence, just &#8230; you know. And if you don&#8217;t know, learn.<\/p>\n<p>Onwards with the big adventure &#8230; and I&#8217;ll try to ignore Twitter. Really, really hard.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I don&#8217;t know how it happened. Well, okay, I do. A confluence of influences. Influence conflued. 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